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Wednesday

Why You Should Be Grateful For Being Ghosted.


I re-entered singledom just over two years ago, when dating apps were at the height of popularity and every other person I knew was whiling away their evenings swiping right and eagerly showing everyone their plethora of new matches.

Having spent the past ten years in long term relationships my only prior encounters with dating were a few hours tipsily spent playing on my single friends apps (you know, sending ‘hilarious’ messages to poor unsuspecting dudes, come on we’ve all done it), so to suddenly find myself rather unwillingly catapulted head first into the world of dating, bombarded with apps such as tinder, happn, hinge, POF and countless others combined with well-meaning friends and colleagues desperate to set me up, I was left SERIOUSLY confused and totally out of my depth.

I felt rather like Alice after she tumbles through the looking glass and lands with a bump in Wonderland. “But I don’t want to go among mad people,” Alice remarked – I feel you Alice, I feel you girl I really do. I didn’t want to end up here either. But guess what, here I am. Here we all are; and whatever you want to call it – benching, ghosting, flaking, whatever –the majority of people stuck in the dating world are seriously half-assing it.

Dating today is the equivalent of shoe shopping, because no matter how much we like the shoe and how well it fits; we just HAVE to see how we look in something else. There’s no real commitment made to any one and we know that. We literally give no sh*ts if one date doesn’t work out as we have another four lined up, another eight matches to talk to, four more apps to swipe through and Barbara in accounts knows ‘JUST the person’ for us. On the Human Interaction Stock Exchange, our words - when it comes to dating - have lost almost all their value

That is, until that can’t-eat, can’t-sleep, reach-for-the-stars, over- the-fence, World Series kind of stuff comes along, slaps us in the face and literally drags us out of our indifferent dating stupor.  When you meet someone that you really like, I mean REALLY like, when that feeling hits you, quite simply you would do anything to be with that person. ‘A thousand miles seems pretty far but they’ve got planes and trains and cars. I’d walk to you if I had no other way’ hell, a person who’s really into you would swim, cycle or crawl. If someone wants to be a part of your life then they will make the effort – no ifs, no buts, no excuses. People make their priorities, well, just that – a priority.

“Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs” and most of the time that sign is so glaringly obvious it may as well be lit up above our heads in neon fu*cking lights. They take days to reply? They drop off the face of the earth for weeks at a time? They constantly cancel dates? They ONLY text you after 11pm? They STILL HAVE DATING APPS ON THEIR PHONE? Sweetie, you need to face the cold hard facts – THEY. ARE. JUST. NOT. THAT. INTO. YOU.

But actually, so what? So what that one particular person isn’t that into you? So what if it seems like the last twenty people you’ve dated just aren’t that into you. The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them. The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” also states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, THEY must respond with a “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them. If you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost. You don’t need someone who’s indifferent, on the fence, or keeping you on the bench. You don’t WANT someone who isn’t that into you! You don’t need to prove your worth to anybody.

As Carrie Bradshaw so eloquently explains, “Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.” Being alone means you’re available for something amazing – for real love. “Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love”. 

So to all the guys and girls that are ghosting and benching us – thank you.

Thank you for ensuring that we don’t settle for anything less than butterflies.

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Friday

Tear Trough Filler Before And After At The Milo Clinic By Dr Milojevic (Non-surgical eye bag removal)



I underwent the Tear Trough Filler Procedure (aka Non surgical eye bag removal) at The Milo Clinic in Harley Street London by Dr Milojevic.

Dr Milojevic has been included in the 'Top Doctors' list for the prestigious Tatler Beauty And Cosmetic Surgery Guide 2016 and from the before and after photos from the tear trough filler procedure it's easy to see why - all there really is to say is WOW! Honestly, not many words are needed as the before and after photos truly speak for themselves at showcasing the dramatic difference after just 1ml of Restylane dermal filler.

Dr Milojevic is actually best known for the tear trough procedure and his expertise is evident from the results. I tweeted photos taken with my phone immediately after the procedure and 24 hours later and as you can clearly see I experienced absolutely zero redness, bruising or swelling. The high-res photos above were taken the day of the procedure and 3 days after the procedure. It’s made a colossal difference to both the dark circles and the bags under my eyes and I feel infinitely more confident wearing absolutely no makeup (I am not wearing any makeup in either photo).

I also tweeted a video of the procedure and can SWEAR that it did not hurt in the slightest (I don't even flinch and I'm smiling away throughout!). There is another video showing what happens during the non-surgical eye-bag removal procedure over on The Milo Clinics Youtube and again you can see that the lady barely bats an eyelid! I would actually rate it as the least painful procedure of all injectables treatments I have had (lips most painful [AGHH!], botox second with a miminal amount of pain on occasion, and tear trough filler - zero pain).

I also had my botox done by Dr Milojevic and am very happy with the results! I had three areas (forehead, glabellar and crow’s feet and I always ask for a slight brow lift when I have botox) and this cost £450. He also offers baby botox. The tear trough procedure took less than 10 minutes in total and the tear trough procedure prices start from £600(*) - results will last around 12-18 months.

I HIGHLY recommend Dr Milojevic at The Milo Clinic and if you'd like to make an appointment you can visit the website, call: 0207 100 1234 or Email: info@miloclinic.com

Jennifer Rosellen x


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Friday

Nügg Face Masks and a GIVEAWAY!












Nügg bills themselves as ‘The Face Mask Authority’ and the brand is all about providing top quality skin treatments at affordable prices. The packets may be small, but they certainly pack a powerful punch and the formulation is backed-up by some impressive skincare science.

It’s pretty clear from my blog that I am a HUGE face mask fan so I jumped at the chance to try these. The idea of single-use pods really appealed to me as I often find face masks can be quite messy to apply and a lot of product seems to get wasted, plus as an avid reader of Paulas Choice I’ve realised that the packaging of a product is paramount to its potency. The Nügg pod single-use packaging keeps the product fresh right up until use and minimizes oxidation (which is when the air getting into the product causing it to be less effective) so you know that the product is 100% effective when you use it.



Each one contains a potent blend of tailored natural oils and extracts -.powered by cutting edge technology that eliminates the need for chemical emulsifiers. So each nügg Face Mask contains over 90% natural or naturally derived ingredients AND has NO chemical emulsifiers, NO fragrances, NO synthetic colors, NO petrochemicals, NO parabens. Pretty good eh?

So far I have used the ‘soothing’(*), hydrating (*) and the ‘de-stress’(*) face masks and each was absolutely wonderful and left my skin feeling soft and nourished. There is a very generous amount in each pod and you simply apply a thick layer to your face, wait for 10 minutes and wash off. I love to put my face masks in the fridge to add to the soothing sensation so I did the same with the pods and then applied them whilst relaxing in the bath. The hydrating and deep cleansing mask have both been won Allure Beauty awards and there is a lot of buzz around these masks - having tried them I can totally see why.

I’ve focused on the soothing/hydrating masks so far so I’m really excited to see the effects of the deep cleansing and exfoliating masks. I also have a first date coming up soon (aaahhhhhh!) so will be using the revitalizing mask before and will report back (on the mask and the date!)

You can buy Nügg face masks in sets of 4 (£13.50) which contain a range of face masks, or if you have a firm favourite mask or two (or three!) you can buy a set of 5 (£16.50). With summer sort of here (I mean we had sunshine for like a day so that’s pretty much Summer done in England) these are absolutely ideal for popping in your hand luggage if you’re jetting off to sunnier climes or to have at the ready for a quick, anytime complexion pick-me-up.

I’m running a competition over on my Twitter where you can win one full set - ALL SEVEN FACE MASKS!!!! So head on over and get tweeting!


Nügg face masks are available from BeautyBay and Selfridges

Jennifer Rosellen
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Wednesday

Frank Body Lip Scrub And Balm Duo





 Can I just say that you simply MUST go and check out the Frank Body website and give them a follow on social media (insta |  twitter as they are just absolutely bang-on in terms of their brand messaging and their website is bloody brilliant.

You've probably seen one of the photos on Instagram where people are covered head to toe in brown stuff -


this is their infamous coffee scrub which is the product they are best known for. I purchased some of this too so a review will be coming up in the next few weeks! 


Now, onto the Lip Scrub and Lip Balm Duo (£11.95)


‘Give a little lip and talk dirty. Scrub and rub, and I’ll meet you in the bathroom for a make out session later.’

I purchased this as I am a lip balm lover and was keen to try a lip scrub for the first time and I fell head over heels in love with the Frank Body brand so decided to give it a whirl. The first thing I noticed is that the packaging for both products is super cute and a good size for the price and the second thing is that it smells simple HEAVENLY, a super sweet mixture of coffee, coconut and macadamia.

The Lip Scrub: The finely ground raw sugar gently buffs away dry skin cells, exfoliating your lips leaving them sumptuously soft and smooth. Ground robusta coffee & coffee seed oil stimulate the production of collegen and moisturises with essential fatty acids and vitamin e. Macadamia oil leaves a long-lasting silky feeling and combined with the natural anti-inflammatory, antibacterial and antiviral beeswax really seals the deal (pun totes stolen from the Frank and Body website!) leaving your lips feeling luscious and ready to absorb the hydrating natural lip balm.

The Lip Balm: The balm contains vitamin E, lanolin (a natural moisturiser, SUPER hydrating and my ultimate love in any lip balm), coffee arabic seed oil (which contains antioxidants to protect skin from environmental damage), grape and coconut oil. It’s sumptuously thick and luxurious feeling and glides effortlessly onto the lips, smoothing, protecting and relieving any dryness. It also leaves a beautiful sheen meaning I can apply this to my bare lips for a natural sheen, under lip products for that perfect base and over lip products as a non-sticky, gorgeous gloss.

I am completely smitten with this perfect pairing and with Frank Body as a brand!

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Tuesday

Skinade: Collagen Drink for Beautiful Skin | #SkinadeJourney Day One




I am on a constant quest for that elusive perfect epidermis and I’m hoping a 40 day course of Skinade (*) will help me on my journey! Skinade is a drink which is to be consumed once a day and claims to “improve the way your skin looks and feels in as little as 30 days.” It contains no artificial flavours or colouring, is less than 35 calories and tastes like peach and mangosteen.

As we age, we lose collagen at the rate of 1.5% a year from our early twenties (slightly scary as I am hurtling towards my THIRTIES now!). Collagen is a critical part of the structure of the dermis, and gives our skin that lovely youthful plumpness. Developed by leading UK scientists and manufactured in the UK, the patent-pending formulation of Skinadce contains high-grade collagen and essential micronutrients.

Skinade works by increasing collagen in the bloodstream by adding 7000mg of hydrolysed marine collagen from each bottle (the daily dose), but more importantly triggers the body’s own collagen production by firing up the fibroblasts, our own collagen factories. Increasing collagen in the bloodstream also increases the body’s production of hyaluronic acid – AKA the holy grail of skin hydration!

1 bottle of Skinade is the equivalent of taking 20 pill supplements and has a much better absorption rate (80-90%). I’m completely useless at taking anything larger than a neurofen and all of the supplements I’ve seen tend to be ginormous; so the fact it’s simply a case of drinking one yummy drink per day is a HUGE plus for me and means I can genuinely easily fit it into my every day routine. 

SIDE NOTE: I am a total diet coke ADDICT and have been told very strictly that caffeine needs to be avoided one hour each side of your daily bottle of Skinade as it can hinder the absorption of the essential micro-nutrients and collagen. 

The ingredients:

-natural flavour of mangosteen & peach
-vitamin b complex
-vitamin c
-I-lysine
-msm
-hydrolysed marine
-organic flax seed oil
-collagen

I won’t go into all the science-y bit on the ingredients here - but to find out more about all of the ingredients you can check out the ‘What is Skinade’ page.  FYI for any vegans/vegetarians Skinade contains collagen sourced from freshwater fish which vegetarians/vegans.

Drinking Skinade on a daily basis for 30 days should result in:

- firmer, more even toned, hydrated, radiant, youthful and healthier looking skin.
-reduction fine lines and wrinkles
-stronger, healthier and faster-growing hair and nails.

I’m officially starting my #SkinadeJourney today and will be reporting back in 40 days to see what benefits I’ve seen. In addition to the skin benefits I’m really hopeful the course will help sort out my brittle nails and give my damaged hair a bit of a boost. 

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Wednesday

Fabulous Face Masks | My Top Exfoliating Face Mask & Top Hydrating Face Mask | The Ole Henrisken Lemon Strip Flash Peel + The Aveda Intensive Hydrating Mask






I’m a HUGE facial fan both at-home and in-salons. In my opinion nothing beats a face mask for giving your skin a proper indulgent - and effective - pamper.  

To combat congestion/breakouts and dullness plus defeat any dehydration or annoying dryness my go-to face mask combination at the moment is the Ole Henriksen Lemon Strip Flash Peel followed by the Aveda Intensive Hydrating Masque. 

The Ole Henriksen Lemon Strip Flash Peel  (£35) is a fantastic exfoliating mask and contains a plethora of high-tech ingredients which ensures it packs a powerful punch.  It’s a thick, gloopy-gel consistency which you apply in a thin layer all over your face (avoiding the eye area!) using the little firm-bristled brush it comes with and wash off after 10 minutes.

It may seem like a small pot but due to the potency of the mask a little goes a long way so you get a lot of bang for your buck. Don’t let the name put you off as this definitely falls into the category of gentle peels that don’t require any downtime whatsoever. A slight tingling sensation can be felt after about 5 minutes but your skin is simply thoroughly exfoliated with no actual ‘peeling’ or flaking to be seen.

The Lemon Strip Flash Peel is an AHA exfoliant that contains both glycolic and lactic acids and is formulated at a pH of 3.5, ensuring these ingredients do their job exfoliating skin and boosting collagen. Micro algae extract calms and soothes whilst liquorice extract brightens and evens leaveing your skin looking brighter and smoother.

The Aveda Intensive Hydrating Masque (£25.65) is a fantastic face mask for all skin types and so many occasions; it’s soothing, cooling and oil-free (YAY!) so whether it’s post-peel, post-sunbathing or post-one-too-many-shots it’s the perfect pick me up for stressed out skin all year round and whatever the weather.
A lightweight gel texture which you can leave on for 10 minutes or longer/overnight as an intensive treatment (be warned though that it remains slightly tacky-feeling on the skin so does feel a bit odd, especially in the morning) it immediately re-hydrates and calms skin with its combination of rosewater, aloe, kelp and lavender. I highly recommend this mask as a must-have for traveling as it can be used to soothe sore wind or sunburnt faces. It’s a great price point too as a tube lasts absolutely bloomin’ ages - I got mine in December and have barely used ¼ of it even with regular use! Top tip – pop it in the fridge for at least 30 minutes before use to achieve maximum soothing relaxation.

Be sure to let me know your favourite face masks and check out my ‘The Night Before’ Routine to see my go-to products to prepare fora big event!

Jennifer Rosellen x

  
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Sunday

Why losing a friend hurts so much more than losing a boyfriend.


I don't like women. There, I said it. Now obviously this is hyperbole but the truth is, as a rule, I generally really don't like women. Perhaps a better way to phrase it is that I just don't get on or click with other women very often. On the magical rare occasion where I meet and recognise a kindred spirit, a fellow little ball of weirdness and too much mascara, I fall fast and hard into BFF love.

If I call you my friend then it means I love you with every single fiber of my being

I'm fiercely loyal and protective and would drop anything to be there to support you. But once you enter my circle of trust then boy oh boy do I trust you. My friends know sh*t about me that no boyfriend has ever or will ever know. A true friend is a comrade, a confidante and your partner in crime. We sit and we share with them our innermost thoughts, whatsapp them our seriously crazy midnight musings and laugh and cry during those 3am drunken chats. Our girlfriends see us at our best, funniest, drunkest, lowest and most vulnerable points - yet they still chose to love us. The phrase 'squad goals' may often be used tongue-in-cheek, but the sentiment behind it is real. All of us want a group of close friends, our very own little girl gang, that we know we can count on no matter what.

Boys, on the other hand? I'm in love with a different one each week

(Again, hyperbole) but seriously, although it's certainly not actually love, I do become enamored ridiculously quickly with members of the opposite sex. I've had five serious boyfriends and god knows how many dates over the past decade so it's safe to say that I find it much easier to connect with guys then I do with girls. I've had my fair share of rejection and have been completely and utterly heartbroken twice, once aged 21 and again aged 25. However this is where the old adage 'the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else' rings true when it comes to lovers.

There's no quick-fix for heartbreak

I'm not suggesting that hopping into bed with the first guy that catches your eye across a crowded bar when your seven drinks down and convinced your dance moves rival Rihanna's is going to mend your broken heart (hint, it probably won't) but, a lover can be replaced and eventually when you do meet someone else, the pain, whilst never truly forgotten, is certainly lessened when you find happiness with your new partner.

The reasons for relationships ending are endless

In my teens I ended it with someone because I had developed a crush on someone else. This guy was and is a genuinely wonderful guy who I remain friends to this day - nearly a decade later. There was nothing wrong with him as a person our relationship had just run its course. Similarly I've found myself broken up with for reasons ranging from long distance, not finding me attractive anymore and simply growing apart. Ultimately, there's only room in your life for one lover and if you end up being just a chapter in someone's story although it may be sad, it's not indicative of you as a person. You either break up or you get married. You and that guy just weren't end game, and that's okay. There's plenty more fish in the sea and there's more dating apps than you can shake a stick at.

Yes it fu*king sucks but you will recover from it, you will meet someone else and you will fall in love again

Friendships don't play by the same numbers game as lovers. Well, for most of us anyway. Everyone knows that relationships end and whilst your ego can certainly take a good beating, ultimately there is no shame in being broken up with and dumping someone doesn't make you a bad person. Plus it's okay, nay EXPECTED, to be upset about a relationship ending. But a friendship ending? There are no clear cut rules on how we're supposed to respond to that. Because there isn't a limit to how many friends you can have when someone decides they no longer want you as one of theirs, it seriously hurts.

There's no softening the blow

There's no puppy dog eyes, head shaking, a sigh followed by a 'it's not you, it's me' because, actually, when someone ends a friendship what they're really saying is 'it's not me, it's you.' Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned but nothing compares to a women pissed off with a friend. Therapist Donald Walch explains that, for women, hurt and resentment pile up in their mind. He refers to it as 'the stack' and in the stack are the hurts and resentments of the entire relationship. Like a kettle reaching boiling point, when a women decides she wants to end her friendship with you she will often unleash 'the stack', which basically means you have to listen to all the reasons why the person you viewed as a friend thinks you're a shi*tty person.

Everything you've ever done or said can and will be used against you

And once someone has explained all the reasons why they think you're a sh*itty person, it's kinda impossible to come back from. Plus, as Tracy Vaillancourt, professor at the University of Ottawa School of Psychology, explains, women often use less obvious yet more complex ways of expressing hostility, meaning a friendship break-up often becomes an ongoing silent yet vicious battle as both parties engage in things like social exclusion, criticizing appearances and spreading rumors. How many of us have fallen out with someone and then seen a wide variety of thinly-veiled Instagram photos and tweets which we just know are directed at us (and hands up now ladies, how many of us have done the exact same thing?). An ex-friend not only sticks the knife in but revels in twisting it - and they know exactly where to hit you so it hurts.

Lovers are like ice cream, friendship is like sand

If you drop your 99 Flake ice cream on the floor, it's a pretty sad occasion, right? But you can just go and buy a new one and it will taste just as good. Maybe they'll have run out and you'll have to wait a little while or even reluctantly try another flavour but then BAM you discover mint choc chip and wonder what the hell you were ever doing wasting your time eating vanilla. That's boys. But friends? Friends are like grains of sand. Every single grain of sand is completely unique and once a friendship has slipped through our fingers there's never any real way of replacing it.

As Carrie Bradshaw once uttered, 'Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with' and your soulmate rejecting you?

That really is the ultimate heartbreak.

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Friday

The Lust List


From couture handbags to high-street-heels, cocktail dresses to sizzling bikinis here's everything that's currently on my wishlist...


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Tuesday

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Friday

Elemis Radiant Moment Gift Set | Cleanser, Mask, Day Cream and Night Cream

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Thursday

My Guide To: New York | Brunch, Lunch & Dinner | #JRoTravels


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Tuesday

The Five Minute Face




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Thursday

My Guide To: Santorini | #JRoTravels


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